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It is funny how Dumisani has the nerve to give the interns an assignment on child abuse when he is the biggest women abuser out there. You could clearly see that Khethowe is not happy with this assignment as she knows she is being abused by Dumisani but she is doing nothing about. But I guess this is the scenario faced by a lot of women today. They are abused day in and day out in their homes by the partners but they keep quiet. Why do they do this? Is it because they are scared to come out and say anything due to the fear they have of their partner? I think this is the reason as I honestly can not think of anyone who enjoys being abused.

What baffles me even more about Khethiwe is that she now wants to take Dumisani to her home so she can meet her gogo and the rest of the family and let them know that she is now staying with Dumisani. Dumisani is not keen about this idea at all as he says ‘family complicates everything’. I think the reason that Dumisani does not want Khethiwe’s family to know that they are staying together is that Khethiwe can then turn to her family at any time and tell them that Dumisani is abusing her.

Now on the other hand, Khethiwe has someone like Ace who is deeply in love with her but she is rather opting to be stuck in an abusive relationship. Ace is not Mr. Perfect but you can see he loves Khethiwe. Who would ever have thought that Ace of all people would write a love letter? Well he did write one for Khethiwe and Khethiwe just through it away.

At times we fall in love with the wrong person and I think that is exactly what has happened to Khethiwe.

What should Khethiwe do?

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  1. Good morning everyone. I hope I find you well. I apologise for not putting a post up yesterday. Please forgive me.

  5. Ron I think these women don’t report the abuse because they are abusive themselves,, I’m not going to dwell much on this subject today

  13. I am fine thanx Sbali, hey Dee…..i wnt to know where do u report verbal abuse mst it be physical only dat u report?

  23. shoo Stacy you and RC amaze me,, where did you two come from,, I bet you were together,,how come you say hello to him and he comes in,,. :) ,,new gens couple??? huh

  35. Khetie brings in Gogo, Dumi continues to abuse her and Gogo will say I told you this man is no good for you. Khaps will be vindicated

  38. Its not good for someone to have 3 successive comments. It shows you are talking to yourself. I have done that today!!!

  45. eish what can i say RC……………i hate dumi eish……….and even if khethi is down he cant even notice

  52. but its difficult to differenciate BB as somebody will be so loving from the begining and after he changes to a monster

  57. Mex last year u were also lazy girl…i think its time u change….stop this sleeping feeling….eish Stacy we sinking on the same bought joe….guyz i asked a question no one answered…is it a physical abuse that u can report or u can also report the verbal abuse?

  59. Thulie it all depends on the laws of your country. Here in Zimbabwe we have the Domestic violence Act which criminalise verbal and physical abuse. If convicted even of verbal abuse which is also related to emotional abuse you go to jail.

  60. Shooo Robin wish was in Zim…was gonner sue someone….where is zim are u? gt a friend of min 4rm bulawayo…..sorry stacy girl…so wht can we talk abt?

  66. Lets taura about Pauly i looking at him last night when he was speaking and damn those lips are just something out of this world.

  83. Siya while verbal is worse that physical that doesn’t make the other the better. They are both devils in their own ways

  87. Heita Roro,,,,my grandma used to call me Roro when I was little,, I cant believe Dee’s message on FB,,ijerrrr

  90. Bt why Kheti is allowing it…i think she mst go to makhumalo to teach her how to treat indoda enganangqondo….

  91. sorry Chico abt the language…bt will interpret for u.. Roro was saying Khethiwe mst leave that Dumisani…..

  94. Guys you are saying verbal is worse than physical how so? If someone gets a scar or crippled then how do you compare the two?

  98. That is man abuse Thulie,,,to Stacy something you have told by someone you will never forget for the rest of your life especialy if it si true….

  100. Thulie that can be abuse coz its denial of conjugal rights if they are officially married. But it all depends on circumstances. For instance if the wife/gf thinks the man is having an extra marital affair and wants to do it without using a condom that can not be abuse. Abuse comes in this scenario if the man forces himself on her-marital rape

  103. sorry I am here for two seconds,, Imagine Thulie,,, somebody saying something bad about you or to you,,, The pain never goes away,,,, Sticks & stones,,,,,but words do more harm

  105. Women abuse men EMOTIONALLY and the sad thing is they dont realise it or even know that it is abuse ,,, then the guy hits her and she cries abuse ,,but she starts it!

  106. I’m fine Thulie thanks i’m just reading yo comments guyz. I think Dumisani doesn’t care about communication his doing things on his own way….Bull Haahaaa

  110. yes TBos agree with u, verbal abuse its worse when it comes to you but u dont notice when u do it to someone else. heeeeeeeee Siya where du u get that info abt Dumi?

  117. gugu,, men are sheep most of the times,,but they get emotionally abused by their partners and even relatives,, expecting money and things the poor guy cant give and when he cant deliver ,,he is called DOG.. and now with the prevention pills,, women are using those like its some sort of steroid and it kills the mans labido,, but who is listening ,,woman just want to prevent and dont wanna hear that its busy killing the man also,,UBUDODA

  120. I think the reason why Dumi beatsKhethi is because ,,Khethi is using those prevention pills now the poor man cant get it up!

  121. dnt agree TBoss the only time a woman say something bad to a man its when leads by his actions….its u guyz dat start doing wrong thing and then we end up calling u dogz….lol….like 4 example if the father of the babe not supporting u tell the babe that ur dad is a dog couse u angry that u supporting alone…lol

  122. a scar Stacy we can get plastic surgery for it but theres no surgery for words that Hurt Stace none and words cant really be taken back

  125. but Thulie,,,, by telling the child that his father is a DOG what image are you giving to the poor kid,, he will also grow up knowing fathers as Dogs,, and all because the woman couldnt sit the father down and talk to him,,, Pride I tell you

  127. not even 3 out of 50 gugu…0.5 out of 100….mna wht else i’ve notice abt men they real lost the value shame…couse they gossip, liars, etc cant even explain it….i think they are boyz maan…

  128. no gugu 49 out of 50 men are innocent and provoked by their partners in some ways.. like going shopping for shoes,, the woman expects the man to hang in therer while she cant make up her mind about SHOES and if I say no i dont wanna do this ,,she stars saying things, like —yah you dont have time for me ,, you dont love me which leads to being called a dog eventually

  129. women ABUSE us a lot more ,,than they think and the sad part is that SA defends them ,,tooo much so they get away with it,,,Why do you guys think so many men end up killing their spouses,,,, Its because the heart and mind couldnt take it any more!!!

  131. Siya if you say he cant get it up ,,,then I have nothing to say but hear your side ,,,and I think the reason is the one I wrote earlier @ 11;22

  133. TBos wht am trying to say z its u who start abuse then we respond thats why end up calling u DOGZ…when not doing ur responsibility u abusing me moss…jst imagen not supporting ur child but u own a blackberry, wearing nike ye R1000, how u expect me to feel?

  135. Imagine that Bra! your woman calling you a Dog,,,,,I mean what does that make her,,,, a bitch*** huih,,,Name calling

  141. I expect you Thulie to tell me that ,,,honey we ( you and I) are going to sell all this stuff for our baby’s sake,, sit down and talk,,, COMMUNICATION will bring us together,, dont just keep quiet and expect a man to read your mind we have no time to do that

  144. If you can take alook in jails there is lot of guys that are innocent by being accused by rape ,,,maybe the mother dont like a guy because he is not working he is not providing bringing money,,,,so she must lie….

  148. as if they listen TBoss…comeon why do u wait for me to talk to u while u know ur responsibility….that means u acting exactle like a dog…

  150. excactly Siya ,, thease days they are worse these woman,,, you touch her she goes and gets a restraining oder against you,,, how evil

  151. Tboss abuse is abuse and it is there to both man and woman and I still say if you see any signs of abuse RUN LIKE HELL AND DO NOT LOOK BACK

  153. I don’t mind a retraining order I hate the jail term for touching someone it makes a person very angry and when he comes out all hell will break loose

  154. Stacy you are missing my point,,, I am not saying women should be battered I am merely saying that men are victims of abuse also,,,,,, by the very ppl that say they are abused look now ,,Dee and Thulie are calling us DOGS and PIGS ,,how do you think that feels

  157. I think the evil one is busy destroying families and using the weaker sex again,,,, eish lets not let him win pls

  158. Tboss i will say it again i agree we both abusing each other but men are the ones starting with their action abuse..and we as women do verbal abuse..

  159. But to be honest people who are in abusive relationship always try to hide it and pretend as though everything is ok

  166. its this stupit thing we call love Dee…we as women alwayz have that thing in mind dat someone is gonner change….bt believe me a dog will alwayz be a dog.

  168. yah Dee thats the problem,,, hiding it,,,,, ppl should talk about things,, and issues,, some ppl do not think they are being abusive ,,whether by actions or by talking so saying it would be ,,cool

  171. Not only verbal abuse thulie go around and see our fathers how are they beaten and stabed in the sheebens for only dont want to buy alchohol,,,,INGUDU ZIYABAGQIBA OTATA BETHU EZIMOKOLWENI….

  172. child hood backround is the worst,, coz it haunts a person and ,, most of our ppl BLack are too ignorant to therapy and counseling …so they get abusive unaware

  173. Dee pls tell me your side of the story but I dont wanna judge coz I have my own baggage ,,just want to relate thats all!!!

  174. being in a sheebben whilst kids are starving is not cool,, let them get the beating botata benu there I dont agree with irresponsibility,,no

  180. Yeah Tbos talking helps a lot even if you do not talk to a friend you can always talk on Facebook on Genblog on Cybershrink and there you will be talking to people who do not know you and who will not judge you

  182. Stacy I would clm him down ,,,,make him his favorite drink then tell him,, Baby,, (this I do whilst I spoil him with an occasional,, kiss) I love you ,,but when you beat me up,,, It hurts me truly and I wanna spend the rest of my life with you,,,, really and theres no man Id rather be with than you,,, so when I have done something wrong just tell me and we can fix it together I know we can,,, and honey I really am sorry for what I have done to do you wrong,, Ok,, then stroke his,,, you know what),,,yum

  186. yep!!! and other people problems end up making your 1 a very petty one,,,, because other ppl have bigger challenges than others

  189. Man and women can never agree on who is and who is not a dog between them so we are not going anyway except cursing each other.

  190. HERE IS MY STORY OF ME ABUSING A MAN :

    I met him and he was sharing a flat at Hillbrow with a friend and then he was driving a nice BMW that time I was still renting a house in Bramley and suddenly he came up with excuses and he moved in with me I did not plan this it happened while I did not even notice then after a while he did not help me to pay my rent R3000 and he did not even buy food that time I did not have a car of my own and he will ask money for petrol if he takes me to shopping.
    Then I got sick and tired of this and I started by not giving him food my food .
    I once told him to sleep on the floor because he came home late my home.
    I made him do his washing with my washing machine then one night he was complaining about all this treatment that I am giving him and he said he doesn’t like it and I told him to move out if he doesnt which he didn’t want to I called the police immediately and they came and throw him out of my house and I got the protection order and throw his clothes on the street

  191. haha Tboss when u try to talk to a man …he will never ever listen….jst imagen i ask u y did u cut ma calls last nite when was calling u? response it was a network…that pisses me off couse i know u lying

  199. Dee I think your situation here was a bit justifiable,, because the guy was now making you feel like he is using you,, he didnt even explain why he isnt helping

  202. already Dee you can see that we behaved better,, coz Gugu is swearing at us and we politely asked her to stop,,which proves something!!!!!

  203. but most of the guyz are like that …for example how many guyz that marry unemployed women? now the first thing the guy is asking when he meet u, where do u work….

  205. Thulie that is caused by the fact that some women earn more than men and we all know that women can be very demanding so magents these days are going the 50/50 route,,,which for me is a boring route coz we are just going to compare salaries without caring for each other ,,eish Satanic jong

  206. Dee i prefer the truth ma sister if there is one thing i hate its someone lying ….truth for me it does’nt matter how much it will hurt…couse when u lie i think u think am a fool

  207. But Tbos what you are made to apologise foe something you know is not like wrong like what Dumi does to Kheti she apologises for his mistakes?

  208. I think we are all possessed ,,waitsi,,, geeeeez,,,I maen we fight over petty little things we argue fuss and fight we all want to earn more we all want big cars and expensive houses so that our peers can respect us,, sis man the thought of all this makes me sick!!!

  210. But Thulie you know I liked this gys one day ,,he said,, when a person starts to lie,,, they first have to lie to themselves,, and convince themselves of the lie first b4 they can lie to you,, so me if a person lies I leave them let them go on,, the lie will get him one day

  211. Khethiwe shouldn’t apologize ,,she should tell him that you are beating me and I dont know why,, and I do not enjoy it,,,

  213. OK GUYZ TELL ME ABT THIS HOW WOULD U FEEL IF THE FATHER OF UR CHILD COME TO U AND ASK FOR A CHILD U GIVE HIM THE CHILD, U CALL TO FIND OUT HOW IS THE CHILD NOT PICKING UP PHONE, APPARENTLY HE TOOK UR CHILD TO HIS GF PLACE. CALL HIM AGAIN ASKING WHEN HE IS GOING TO BRING BCK THE CHILD JST SAY WILL BRING THE CHILD BACK AND CUTTING THE CALL. AND HE BRINGS THE CHILD BCK AT 21:30 WITH A SLEEVELESS DRESS..TODAYZ LATER HE IS WRITING ON HIS STATUS ON FACE BOOK ABT U BEING THE BAD MOTHER, HIS BROTHER COMMENT AND CALL U A BAD MOTHER AND HIS GF ALSO COMMENT….IS THAT NOT A DOG TBOSS?

  216. Thats an irrespective ,irresponsible father not a dog,, Thulie we have no excuse for sin sister ,,now yuou want me to preach,,do not go to hell for his faults,,,

  221. guys guys guys marumo fase gretngs i feel emotions com down thulz u ar de best mom eva u care about ur daughter ths y u were worried & keep coling him and he is a fool.back 2 gen chief Khumalo think he is wht God cause we olwais sai forgive us as we forgive dos who sin against us & he cant forgive his onli son 4 crying in de backet who dos he think he is,as 4 JB he got momRuby were he wnt her control frik

  223. Thulie your child’s father is irresponsible especially by bringing the chil so late I mean hellow and get over your anger and talk to him about this type of things that bothers you and as for Facebook remove him from your friends list you don’t need this cheap life you and your child deserves better

  226. Eish Dee this thing iyangihlanyisa everytime when am thinking abt it…dnt worry have a very good solution for him…he is out of ma child’s life for good…

  227. will never ever listen to anyone that says i mst give him another chance….he is a dog….with his brother and his girlfriend…

  228. Even woman too there’s one woman that I know who likes party’s she is a single mom to a 5year old she locks the child alone in the house and go party

  229. and guess what guyz…his uncle even called me telling me that what type of a mother i am that let a guy to bring a child a nite….what i was suppose to do….its jst that i dont wanna involve ma family in this but was going to call ma dad to sort them out….

  230. Thulie do not take him out of your child’s life rather make it this way if he wants to see the child make it your terms sweety at the end of the day he is the childs father and it will never change

  232. hahah Dee does this woman dnt have relatives? because instead of locking ur child up its better to give the child to one of ur sisters…

  234. eish Dee at the moment am agry dnt want him next to ma child…the child is 4mth now almost 5…this person wanted me to give him the child while she was still younger and he accused me of not alloweing him to be part of his childs life because i did’nt give him the child…now that i gave him the child what have i gain….

  235. So the bottom line is Khethi should leave dumi and if she really cares about him she should advice him to get some help

  236. do u think Dumi will ever agree to get help…remember he did’nt listen to the sangoma do u think he will listen to Khethi no wayz….where are others?

  239. Thuie its not your child,,alone its BOTH your child,,he has to take better care of the child,,, eish ,,I hate it when children are dragged between our issues

  241. wht do u mean TBoss @ 1:05.. i gave him many chances to prove himselve bt alwayz get dissapointed….what am i suppose to do….no wayz i hate that dog with ma heart….

  242. But Thulie your child does not hate that dog and that dog is still your child’s father and your child will one day hate you for calling her dad a dog

  243. eish,,,,,Thulie,,the reason you HATE him is because you actually love him so much its painful,,I understand that but what he did on FB you are doing on Gensblog,, both of you are lashing at each other but not talking TO each other,,,,,,pls dobnt hate him and dont call him names,, be blameless at all times or atleast try,,, you sound veeeeery angry,,,,,,

  244. TJO TJO TJO Dee for the first time again ,,youve made me proud,, you sound soo responsible,,and its true,,your own child will hate you Thulie,,, Anger isnt good it makes you say and do things,, joe

  245. When parents fight its always the children who suffer. Sometimes its psychologically damaging such that it affects them in future and even in their marriages

  247. Thulie shouldnt send him any message now,, she is too pissed off right now,,what do your parents,,,say about all this

  251. these two ,,,,love each other,,,and its unfair for the child to be dragged between them,,le lwadisa ngwana man

  254. aaaaaaa Thulie wena you dont listen ever,,and ppl that dont take advice sometimes fall in a trap,,,,we are more grown up than you thulz we know what we are talking about ,,,,you should be slow to act but quick to listen,,,,,eish am so frustrated now

  258. I think its about who is willing to be the wiser,,,,, the wiser one is going to just keep quiet as if,,,,,, its tough i know but worth it

  259. Thulie be like me babes use him and allow him to use you as well. I know what I am talking about leave anger aside do ur duties as a woman and make him pay

  261. am sorry TBoss but i think u are the person that mst understand ma stuation couse i sent u the message that were talking abt me…sorry that i dissapointed u bt i think i wont do it again i dnt know what can he say and i dnt care.

  267. Thulie now you are being stubborn,,blinded by anger and the only person that will make sense to you is the one who says ,, thuga le nja o yi bophise,, others that say keep the peace ,,at this moment sound like they dont know what they are talking about and believe me THEY DO!!!

  268. wa bona,, I knew it just coz Dee said use him,, that sounded Ok, but its not really ,,well its your choice and you will have to live with it not us!!!

  276. Tbos i took all the advices Sbali, as i said now i feel guilt with some of the thingz i said on the email…but i will apologies once ma anger is gone.

  278. Ask him money even if you know you don’t need it and pay it back at the end of the month.
    Call him maybe on friday assk him to come with you to the child’s crech just to collect the baby.
    Ask him for assistance with phoning someone who is bothering you and you are scared of that person then tip that person to expect a call from your ex.
    He will feel like he is protecting the mother of her child he will feel like he’s the real man.
    But if he ask you to borrow him R100 say eish sweety I only have R50 with me and give him and month end do not ask it back keep quiet and see if he will return it ad if he doesn’t don’t ask it back but 15 days later borrow R200 from him. THIS MIGHT BUILT A GOOD CARING RELATIONSHIP

  279. but Dee thats lying and it takes a lot of effort to lie,,, because you have to plan the lie and use other innocent people to do your dirty work,, how can you do that ,,mara ??? and we are DOGS ? geeez

  280. hahahahahaha pathological liar,,,hahahahah you never cease to amaze me,, shem I feel sorry for the poor brother,,,,,why dont you just say I love you and start from there????

  281. hahahahah Dee so your world is a mengelmus,,, it sounds twisted USE him NA LET HIM use YOU HAHAHAHAHAHA eish I cant stop laughing

  298. wa te curse Dee dont say that pls ,,and when are you accepting Jesus as Lord and savior Dee..nke o ikhutse maaka

  299. huhuhhahahahah RC I cant believe ,,you agree with these blatant lies of Dee’s funny ppl all you lot ..brb

  300. My network was acting up the whole of lunch time and am too lazy to read all your comments what are you guys talikng about?

  301. and Dee’s 1;44 sounds more like a trick than anything,,,,, where would his girlfriend be at the time you two are exchanging R50 rands and R200 rands Sweety???

  306. Rc its easier to 4get lies ,,you lie about this today and tomorrow you 4got what you said the day b4 isnt that a lot of work???

  308. Tbos the sooner we stop worrying about the girlfriends blah blah blha the better concentrate on building a good relationship with your ex since your ex is not your enemy and this is an innocent lie it does not kill anyone

  309. If you lie Tbos lie wisely what is wrong in asking your ex who is your child’s father to borrow you 1 klipa

  311. try it fast gugu it works this is what we call building a good relationship just like your mother in law make her feel like she’s your own mother ask her if she does not have a red handbag that you could borrow even if you have it.
    Ask her for a black doek even if it’s ugly tell her how beautiful it looks

  317. guys ar u there ! ur confusin me i don’t no about u Thulie take it from me my mom did evri thing 4 me & did tel me to hate de punk or sai aniting ugly about him but as a child i figur it myslf dat de fada was a punk & foolish runing away 4rom respnsbilty shifting de blam caus he dont hav balls , nu i hate hom 4 dat .Thulie ur job is to take a very gud care of ur angel do not play stupid lik him, do not comunicate wit him just take care of ur baby and if she wnt 2 no about de father show her de fada do not ply selfish whn she growup she wil realise wh ws dere 4 her & wh ws not let her choose dont deny her dat opotunity pls girl pls , i no ur hrt but think 4 her she has 2 make her own chois whn she grow

  319. I was raised by a single mom only with an irresponsible father but I will never ever call him a punk and foolish

  321. Dee now I respect your 2:31 comment ,,I love it,,,,,,Brilliant ,,and with that its adios mochachos from me ,,and Ma God bless your paths,, bah byeeeee

  323. i did not get enough tym to comment today but i’ve learned a lot from you comments guyz! bye all c 2moro and hv a gud day further.

  325. Today was lively, unfortunately I was busy today. This family is very constructive and discuss mature issues. Am growing fast guys. Am only 29 but I have learnt things 50 year olds have failed to do in their lifetime.

  346. Dumi was in in the bar his phose was off battrey flat the Khethi was trying to call but phone was on voice mail and it was late already ,,,,,Dumi seems not even care about that,,,eish i feel for Khethi

  350. hey gugu….oh thanx Siya now i remember wht happend on gen…..JB apparently is owing someone some cash….

  375. There is a new post guys but I tell you it has nothing to do with what happened on Gens yesterday. T Bos, Ronnie, whats going on guys? Should we give you a vote of no confidence?

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